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The warning signs of suicide
The strongest and most disturbing signs are verbal - "I can't go on," "Nothing matters any more" or even "I'm thinking of ending it all." Such remarks should always be taken seriously.
Other common warning signs include:
· Becoming depressed or withdrawn
· Behaving recklessly
· Getting affairs in order and giving away valued possessions
· Showing a marked change in behavior, attitudes or appearance
· Abusing drugs or alcohol
· Suffering a major loss or life change
What do people who feel suicidal want?
· Someone to listen. Someone who will take time to really listen to them. Someone who won't judge, or give advice or opinions, but will give their undivided attention.
· Someone to trust. Someone who will respect them and won't try to take charge. Someone who will treat everything in complete confidence.
· Someone to care. Someone who will make themselves available, put the person at ease and speak calmly. Someone who will reassure, accept and believe. Someone who will say, "I care."
What do people who feel suicidal not want?
To be alone. Rejection can make the problem seem ten times worse. Having someone to turn to makes all the difference. Just listen.
To be advised. Lectures don't help. Nor does a suggestion to "cheer up", or an easy assurance that "everything will be okay." Don't analyze, compare, categorize or criticize. Just listen.
To be interrogated. Don't change the subject, don't pity or patronize. Talking about feelings is difficult. People who feel suicidal don't want to be rushed or put on the defensive. Just listen
Don’t be afraid to raise the issue of suicide with the person. Talking about suicide does not cause suicide.
What should I do if someone tells me they are suicidal?
GET HELP! Don’t try to handle the situation by yourself.